Identity Part 5: Relationship

"Oh I think it's love at first sight..."

"My heart is racing..."

"I love the way he makes me feel..."


These are actually a kind of love that is born out of sensuality. It is based on the lust of the eyes and the lust of the flesh. Such love and relationship boil down to self-centeredness. In fact, it is a worldly love that does not represent heaven.


We don't enter a relationship so that we can be loved. Neither do we enter one to feel complete. If we do so, we will end up in disappointments and heartaches. The truth is... love is never meant to be demanded from anyone. The biblical definition of love is to give.

For God so love the world that He gave... - John 3:16


Our wedding vow has nothing on the list that says about being loved. On the contrary, it says, "to love..."

You and I enter into a relationship to love. Why is that so? Because you and I are not supposed to draw love from our partner. We are to draw from the perfect Love (Jesus).

We love because He first loved us. - 1 John 4:19.


We enter into a relationship not to become or feel complete. No one can make you more complete than you already are in Christ.

...in Him you have been made complete. - Colossians 2:10. 


To find a partner in a relationship so that you can be complete is to deny your true identity and walk contrary to it. Many women misplace their identity in the men they love and end up in despair and brokenness. Don't let imperfect men become your identity. Let the perfect Man and Bridegroom Jesus Christ be your identity.


When we walk in that understanding, our relationship will be healthy and strong.